A year ago, my son noticed a pimple on my forehead. It was true, there was a blemish that would not go away. You can just spot the growth in the photo (center of forehead, about an inch from my hairline). It was a waxy translucent bump that grew in diameter.
I have darkened the following picture, so you can see the basal cell cancer tumor better:
There. Do you see the pea-size raised lump of skin? Before I knew what it was I kept picking at it, noticing its dense rubbery texture, unlike the normal feeling of acned skin.
I made an appointment to see a dermatologist, who told me the spot or lesion was a basal cell carcinoma, i.e. skin cancer. He smiled and told me I was lucky, "It's the best kind of cancer." It wouldn't kill me, he said. I'd probably die a natural death first. Still, he said, you need to get it removed...because it spreads and it isn't a pretty sight. Hurrying home after the skin examination I googled the diagnosis. Dumb, dumb, dumb, for the images were horrifying. Not a pretty sight at all!
Meantime, I went in for surgery or excision of the tumor, opting to see a plastic surgeon. The photo, below, was taken 8 hours after surgery. There are no stitches covering the surgical wound. What you are seeing is an incision that was closed with clear surgical tape. I was hesitant to leave my hospital room, not wanting to scare any visitors in the hallway. Two days later, factoring in the swelling and bruising, things looked much worse.
Maybe you are thinking "Mohs! why didn't she do Mohs micrographic surgery?" Mohs procedure to remove this skin tumor was not available in my area of France. Maybe I should have gone to Paris? Or New York? Or my childhood town of Phoenix, Arizona--the sunny desert responsible for all this? The doctors there must get a lot of practice!
My French doctor mentioned doing a forehead flap,"un lambeau" in the form of the incision you see, below. He said he would proceed, little by little (removing a bit of skin, then having it tested in the lab next door). But when he began surgery, he learned this would not be possible. To be on the safe side, he cut out a larger section. Imagine my surprise when I woke up from surgery....
It is surprising the amount of skin that must be removed when the affected area is (or seems) no bigger than a pea. But they say that small spot, or lesion, represents the tip of the iceberg. With carcinoma, there is more beneath the surface, like roots beneath a tree.
Healing. Picture taken at night, without the large bandaid I wore during the day (the nurse told me to keep the scar out of the sunlight for one year, to improve its appearance).
This photo was taken ten weeks after surgery. The scar is a bit raised in the center. I continue to massage the scar tissue, in order to break down the build-up of collagen fibers (I learned this from the physical therapist who worked on my scar (a second doctor sent me to the therapist, after the scar seemed stuck. Who knew a scar could be stuck!). I am also using a silicon patch, or scar sheet, to help diminish the surgical scar.
(Alas, this was not the end of my experience... While my forehead was healing, I found out that the red "spot" on the side of my nose needed to come off. Why had I let it sit there for nearly 4 years?! It turned out to be another basal cell carcinoma (photo of the nose stitches, here). A third spot, on the tip of my nose, was biopsied a year after that, in 2013. Good news this time... it was only a papul, or kind of skin lesion.)
Here is a letter I received from Mom, who is determined to "read into" the "H" mark on my forehead (please excuse the ALL CAPS - but you know how Moms can turn emotion into enthusiasm:!) Mom writes:
WE ARE ATTACHED FOREVER BY THE DOUBLE CROSS - WHICH REPRESENTS OUR RELATIONSHIP TO ONE ANOTHER AS WE HOLD HANDS AND FORM THIS LETTER... WHICH STANDS FOR OUR HOLINESS.
I can feel your HOLINESS RUN THROUGH MY FINGERTIPS AS WE FORM THE LETTER 'H' WITH OUR BODIES STANDING FIRM AGAINST EACH WIND THAT BLOWS AGAINST OUR LIFE.
WHEN YOU LOOK IN THE MIRROR AND SEE THE SIGN WHICH GOD HAS ALLOWED TO COVER YOUR FOREHEAD YOU WILL KNOW THAT
'H' stands for HOLY and that you are holy in the eyes of GOD (and your MOM).
"H' stands for HEAVEN which is the promise you carry to all from Jesus
'H' represents the state of HEALTH you have received --- because your ears HEAR all that GOD whispers throughout every cell of your body.
When you look in the mirror you will see that you are not only cool, but you are now 'HIP'.
Yes - you will automatically smile because you will know deep within your HEART you have a HILARIOUS sense of HUMOR.
What can you say but HALLELUJAH as you notice GOD'S HAND reaching down for your HAND.
This is my gift to you on this special day - September 23, 2011 - God gave me the greatest birthday present today because he has HEALED your HEAD and HEART and joined our HOLY HANDS together forever.
Don' worry - be HAPPY!!
Every day when you look in the mirror remember God has given all of these wonderful words especially for you and that He has built a HEDGE around you forever to protect you.
XOXO
MOM
p.S. don't forget that your #1 HELPER the HOLY SPIRIT is with you always to guide you, teach you, and comfort you in all things.
I think we should turn this note into a song and HUM its notes forever to each other. XOXO
An updated photo, taken 4 years after my first surgery. Can you see the scar on my forehead? My dog doesn't care. Here is the most recent photo (scroll down and a look at the scar these days).
Remember to protect your skin. I always wear a hat and sunscreen, when necessary. Try LA ROCHE POSAY SUNSCREEN - it is French and many people swear by it. Get a car sun shade to protect you from UV rays when driving.
Picture taken in 2018. What my post surgery scar looks like 7 years later. The scar is still visible, but c'est la vie! If you found me via Google, please be sure to sign up to my word journal. You'll learn French as well as a little about our life here in France. I post a lot of photos--so if you simply came here for the basal cell post of picture, you can at least follow my scar's progress :-)
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I'm in love with your Mom. Happy health and healing Kristen. You are still absolutely gorgeous on the inside and out!
Love,
Sandy
Posted by: [email protected] | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 01:17 PM
I wish you well in your recovery! You have many fans here sending warm thoughts your way :-) Each time I receive my French word-a-day email, it puts a smile on my face. I hope my message puts a smile on yours.
Posted by: Michelle | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 01:18 PM
prayers for healing and peace as you take good care of you!
Posted by: jan Greene | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 01:24 PM
I wish you the speediest and least scarring of recoveries--the good news is you can always have a few bangs there and it won't even show. Love Jules' message--she is something special and so are you.
Posted by: Robyn France | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 01:27 PM
Here's for quick healing!
Posted by: Bill in St. Paul | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 01:34 PM
All the best, Kristen, for speedy healing. I love receiving your French word-a-day and hearing about your family's adventures. Take care. From Leanne (French teacher in Toowoomba, Australia- also married to a French man!)
Posted by: Leanne Grams | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 01:35 PM
God bless you and heal you quickly, Kristen.
Thanks for all you share with us.
Posted by: Geraldine Ventura | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 01:45 PM
holy cow kristin, but what a beautiful person your mother is i know what a feeling that must be to have everybodies caring support my dear but just as well something could be done we are lucky to live at this time - nothing can be done for me though - you are always sooo happy and lovely - it seems that i have two demeanors at the moment the first grumpy and the second grumpier but without your friendship i would be worse - warm wishes & long life annie xx
Posted by: annie shultz | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 01:45 PM
Kristin -
May you heal well - your mom is a wise and wonderful woman and her message is a beautiful reflection of her love. Blessings to you.
Posted by: Linda R. | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 01:51 PM
Having had melanoma removed from my upper arm leaving a six inch angry, red scar I can tell you that one year later there is only a thin line remaining. In the beginning when people asked about the large red, ragged scar I simply told them it was the result of a bar fight. Everyone would laugh and the conversation moved on. This scar will fade and you will still be beautiful. My husband had the same melanoma on the bridge of his nose. They skinned the nose and transplanted skin from his chest and you cannot even see the scar. You will heal!
Posted by: corky | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 01:57 PM
Dear Kristin,
Wonderful Healing words from all your Hearty friends around the globe. Here's to Health, Holiness, Happiness, Harmony, and the Harvest of friendship you have given to us through your beautiful thoughts and pictures. Love your Mom's ever present positiveness and affection. Your valley is indeed a beautiful spot on earth. Just left Buisson after a too short stay and your posts came to mind with every turn of the road. Bonne sante! Susan
Posted by: Susan Bruns | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 01:59 PM
"H" is for Hurry back to us. Between the harvest and the surgery, you have your hands full. But I send you and your family all my prayers.
Posted by: Julie F in St. Louis, MO | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 01:59 PM
thank you for being so brave and putting this picture out there. Its not easy for someone blessed with your natural beauty to do this. But you are doing so much for others by being open. And you'll look even more beautiful with some piece-y loose bangs; a great haircut will make the girl-y side of you feel better too! God bless you and speed your healing...
Posted by: Elena | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 02:01 PM
Kristin,
In our house, besides LOVE, there is HLOVE! You've got HLOVE too! We hlove you, Kristin! Heal and be well!
Posted by: Deb Cozen | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 02:21 PM
Kristin,
Your Mom is wonderful.
Wishing you a complete recovery and will keep you in my prayers.
Your have a lot of courage.
Blessings,
Anne
Posted by: anne | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 02:27 PM
Salut Kristin,
WOW! What heart-felt and sincere words of support from Jules. Your Mom’s experience with her own medical traumas must have has given her insight as to the anxieties that you had about the surgery and now the recovery. She obviously suffered with you and is glad it’s over.
Best wishes for a speedy and successful “heal-up”!!!!!
À bientôt
Posted by: Herm in Phoenix, Az | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 02:46 PM
All of the above sentiments, my Mom would never have come up with that, so wonderful, and yes, bangs cover the big scar I have on my forehead from shingles
and it works. That scar will disappear, just like how people look after a facelift, then no trace a few weeks later.
Anyway, as everyone of your thousands of fans have said, nothing could ever mar your beauty, inner or outer, and you may have saved many lives with this cautionary tale, I'm so proud of you!!!
And just think, you and I are now part of the Harry Potter club!! Much love and healing vibes from your DC fans xoxox
Posted by: Suzanne Codi, Washington, DC | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 02:48 PM
Kristin,
You are beautiful both inside and out! Your inner beauty shines through and I know you will be healed soon. Your mother is a wonderful example to you and to all of us. Gather strength from her. Thanks for being an inspiration to all of us.
Posted by: Andrea Robinson | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 02:49 PM
Kristin - you are brave, fearless and smart. Never ignore this type of cancer. My son was diagnosed at age 15 with Melanoma Stage III. He is now 23! Has gone through a lot of treatment and surgeries and the scars are battle wounds that show that he is a survivor! Love, love, love your contribution to my e-mail box!
Janet - Wisconsin
Posted by: Janet | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 02:50 PM
Best of luck & continued good health in recovery.
Posted by: Scott Brotherton | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 02:59 PM
Thank you, Kristin, for sharing this experience. It behooves all of us to remember that we need to take care of ourselves and use that sun block. The picture made a big impression on my husband, and I hope I will no longer have to tackle him, sit on his chest and apply SPF 50 before he gets on his sailboat.
Your energy is so inspiring; you are one of my shining lights. Blessings of healing to you.
Posted by: Kate O'Kula, RHode Island | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 03:01 PM
Best wishes for a good post op recovery. You still look fine and I think it is great that you are thoughtful enough to be helping others with reminders about sun screen even as you heal! As a fellow basal cell (lack of sunscreen in the younger years) person...I wish you a speedy recovery. Take Care :)
Posted by: Patricia | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 03:04 PM
Be Well Kristin,
I enjoy reading your blog daily and know that you have blessed me tremendously!!! I love your mom's spirit. Have a speady recovery and know that God is with you.
BTW, the hat is great!!!
Anita
Posted by: Anita | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 03:05 PM
You are incredibly brave and forthright - kudos to you for taking us along on your BCC journey and recovery from surgery. I salute you and thank you for your posts. I echo Michelle's sentiment above - whenever I open Outlook and see a French-Word-A-Day post I smile. They make the day sunnier. How fortunate to have Jules in your corner. Happy healing.
Posted by: Chris Greges | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 03:14 PM
I'm so very pleased to hear that you have come through your surgery so well and have the courage and decency to publish your pictures as a warning to everyone and especially us blonds. I do try to remember my hat always, but have been known to forget.
Best wishes,
Mike.
Posted by: Mike Hardcastle | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 03:15 PM
Beautiful words from Jules. She is so thoughtful to reach out across the miles to you and to us as well. Thanks to Corky for that snappy response! It made me LOL! Meanwhile, you can wear lovely chapeaus. I am fond of the cloche style that shelters the forehead.
Posted by: mhwebb | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 03:17 PM
I think the H stands for HOT... your just as beautiful as ever...
Godspeed & kinest regards,
Dan in N.C.
Posted by: dan | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 03:19 PM
Dear Kristen,
You've encouraged me so often in my year here, studying French, now I hope I can encourage you. I spent a couple of visits in hospital here - after I feinted, I cut my face and needed stitches. I remembered what a physiotherapist had said years ago when I'd had a skin tag removed. She said keep massaging the scar and it will dissolve. I doubted her advice - but it worked! Now, with my new scar on my eyebrow, rubbing it vigorously is also working. Just do it when you think of it, do it reasonably vigorously - but I can tell you - my 67 year old face responded beautifully. Bon chance. Now, I need avice on wrinkles...
Posted by: Heather Donaldson | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 03:28 PM
Your mom is so wonderful. What a blessing. Can't wait to see what lemonade you make with the lemons. Love you.
Posted by: Jeanne Robinson | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 03:28 PM
I love your mother also! What a lovely prayer/poem to allay all your fears and doubts. What a lovely poem for us all. A speedy recovery and gratefulness that these things can be taken care of, in this day and age. Bonne chance!
Posted by: Michelle | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 03:29 PM
What beautiful thoughts from your mother. How special she must be and how lucky you are to have her. I am sure your scar will heal before you know it, but now, with your mom's words, you will have different feelings about it than you might have had!
Posted by: Marie-Louise | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 03:39 PM
I wish you a quick recovery.
All the best to you and your family!
Posted by: Irene | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 03:41 PM
Daughter would smile, laugh and say, "such a MOM thing to write!", then shake her head, smile and laugh again (not letting the message get lost). Blessings to all and prayers for a quick healing.
Posted by: Merrie | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 03:42 PM
I'm so glad your surgery went well even though it looks like you are still suffering - you poor thing. With love and support like you have, you're sure to heal quickly!
You're beautiful.
Posted by: Amy Kortuem | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 03:48 PM
Your mom's words are Beautiful! God bless Her and You!
Posted by: Nancy L. | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 03:49 PM
I wish you courage as you heal, both physically and I'm sure, emotionally, from this scare... Obviously from all of the posts above, I am not the only one who truly appreciates you and your amazing wit and warmth. I look forward to your emails and enjoy so much sharing in your thoughts and experiences as I read your newsletter. Thank you for being there and please know that you have so much support out here in cyberspace that we can lift you up when you need it... =)
Posted by: LeNora | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 03:50 PM
Kristin - this is a wonderful thing you are doing to raise awareness - but I want to make sure you know that you should not expose that scar to the sun even for short moments. Scar tissue will become permanently tan and won't lighten up again as normal skin does when the tan fades. Best of luck. You are inspriational.
Posted by: Jackie Coleman | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 03:59 PM
Your mom is the best- wouldn't the world be a better place with more Moms like her!! Hang in there and relax under God's healing touch- you are beautiful and inspiring!
xo Suz
Posted by: Sue Sansom | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 04:00 PM
Kristin,
You are a brave soldier! I think it is educational for you to share your surgery picture in the hopes that others in the world will not ignore strange and small lumps. I know that you will HEAL up beautifully and yes you will have such a cool scar. I love cool scars on people they show evolution! You rock! And your Mom is a delight.
hugs...
Posted by: hedda | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 04:02 PM
Thank you Kristin, for all that you give us -your heart, your humanity and your most treasured moments. I hope that I can be more like you and like your mom. She is wonderful. One more H word, you are our Heroes! I think my mama would have found in yours a kindred spirit. Here's a link to her last letter to her children. We were mostly teenagers at the time.
http://mamadalgas.wordpress.com/2008/05/07/what-can-a-mother-say/
Posted by: Esther | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 04:11 PM
I have another H word- HEROIC! That's what I can add to the H litany. Thanks for sharing and raising awareness. Happy Healing.....
Posted by: Maureen Walsh | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 04:13 PM
My dearest RB,
It will get better - you would be amazed what time will do! Mom's was worse and now it is barely even a scratch line! I know faces are different than heads but am praying for you RB to not worry, take care of yourself! Use lots of suncream and let JM and kiddos pamper you!
My love and prayers go out to you for quick healing and only another "character" line or two!
Love you, XOXOX
RB
Posted by: Susan Boehnstedt | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 04:16 PM
The scarring will calm down in about 6-12 nmonths - you might want to switch to bangs! If it is still too large, see a plastic surgeon. I used to work for one and they can do marvels!
Posted by: Jeanne of Maumee, OH | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 04:24 PM
We are so happy the cancer is GONE! You are beautiful as always, inside and out. Your mom, Jules, is a JEWEL!!! On the lighter side....I hear bangs make you look. Ten years younger. See you May!
Kathleen and Ron
Posted by: Kathleen Hurder | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 04:33 PM
Pamela in California: Blessings to you and your precious mother! Praying for your healing and I always look forward to reading your updates from your beautiful home in France! And remember, "bangs" look great on gals like us of "un certain age"!
Posted by: Pamela Hutchings | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 04:41 PM
Your mother is an amazing woman, as are you.
You are so beautiful, ........................
( a Joe Cocker song)
Your heart is open, your smile is amazing, your stories are wonderful
you have such a gift with words, I so enjoy your posts , and have for years.
relax ,take care
Bessings and Prayers to you
teresa
Posted by: teresa | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 04:48 PM
Bonne courage, dear Kristin, and healthful healing. xx
Posted by: Angela | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 04:51 PM
Dear Kristen,
I wish you a speedy recovery and know that you have the strength to get through this. Your mom is a wise woman and you are lucky to have her support.
I look forward to reading your positive words again, once you are feeling better.
PS: I like the bangs idea too- but you will look beautiful either way.
Posted by: Erin from Canada | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 04:53 PM
Dearest Kristi
I am always overwhelmed when I read all of the comments from your worldwide blog readers. All of their love and encouragement brings tears to my eyes. If love truly heals, then you will be well in no time. Your mom is a keeper! Though I am not religious, I am spiritual and I know that lovely people like you will heal and thrive. I am so proud of you for all that you have accomplished and for sharing your love and talents with the world.
Keep smiling...Dad
Posted by: Kip Ingham | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 05:05 PM
Hi Kristin.
Hope the surgery is a complete success. Heal quickly! I read through the other posts and didn't see anyone mention Mederma Scar cream. Normally I don't recommend products but I used this on a facial scar and it really helped minimize the appearance after a few weeks. Don't know if this is an option for you but I thought I would mention it. And I like the hat.
Posted by: Mary, Southern California | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 05:11 PM
Kristin,
Best wishes for your complete and speedy recovery. As you know by now, th first day or two are the worst...
...and, from someone who knows, any signs of healing become an instant conversation-starter, so tell a good story :)) And, in time, you will be the only one to notice the difference...
In the meantime, get the rest you need to heal, but also get back into the thick of things -- along with your family, the best medicine of all.
Cheers,
Liv
Longtime reader
First time poster
Posted by: Liv wighe USA | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 05:13 PM
Dear Kristin,
I am tempted to think, "Oh Kristin doesn't need to hear one more note of praise and encouragement from me." And then I remember that there is no end to blessings as they flow from all of us to you and back again. What a community you have created! And now you will have a scar on your forehead like Happy Potter.
How cool!
Posted by: Meg Tipper | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 05:19 PM
You are a beautiful women inside and out, as many have stated before. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you Jules for those wonderful words.
Posted by: Kathleen | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 05:32 PM
Thanks so much for sharing -- you have helped a lot of people. Both you and your mom are wonderful.
You are beautiful both inside and out! Thanks for your great emails, I always look forward to reading about your adventures.
Be well!
Posted by: Faye | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 05:36 PM
Wishing you the best for your recovery, Kristin, and I love your mom's message! Take care, Denise
Posted by: Denise Givens | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 05:46 PM
I was thinking of you last Friday, knowing that was the day of your surgery. My best wishes for a speedy recovery, Cynthia
Posted by: Cynthia Lewis | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 06:09 PM
Kristin - you bring such joy to my life with your postings. Permit yourself to be wrapped in all the love and prayers that are gushing forth towards a swift and complete recovery. Many blessings.
Posted by: Regina in NJ | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 06:25 PM
Kristin,
wishing you quick healing and sending prayers for your recovery! Kisses to the doggies from me!
Posted by: Mary St. Mary | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 06:26 PM
I've also had surgery recently, but on my ankle, and it seems that ice (wrapped in a soft cloth) really eases the discomfort and swelling. Best wishes for a speedy recovery!
Posted by: Carol McFarland, Arcata, CA | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 06:36 PM
I just love your mom! She is cheerful and right! You will heal-nothing can hurt the beauty of your face, Kristin. I am just glad that you are well-you and your mother know how much worse this could have been. Take care, relax and heal well.
Posted by: Alyssa Ross Eppich | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 06:54 PM
My dear friend:
I'm very glad you are healing after being so worried about your surgery.
In a few weeks you will be allright. I cover my scars with foundation.
Have some wine and forget about it.
God will take care of you.
Posted by: María E. Sastre Wirshing | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 07:05 PM
Dear Kristin, Thank you for the courage you have shown by sharing this difficult process with us. You are beautiful inside and out. You are a wonderful example to us all. Sending you healing rays from CT.
Posted by: Cheryl Dixon | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 07:12 PM
Kristin, Having known your mother for several years, she NEVER ceases to amaze me. She told you all the correct things. Us mothers know that stuff, somehow. Take care, and heal well. Vance
Posted by: Vance Anderson-Inks | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 08:02 PM
Dear Kristin: How brave you are and many thanks for posting the before and after picture as this will perhaps move many of us
to reconsider our sun exposure. Your Mom sounds like a pillar of strength for you to lean on and her love for you speaks volumes in her letter..how lucky you truly are! Make
every moment count as you always do!
xoxo
Posted by: Catherine Semper | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 08:05 PM
The healing process is so remarkable and magnificent and thank you for sharing your personal experience. Yes, you are wonderful and beautiful and all the very best to you!
Posted by: Kim Timmerman | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 08:06 PM
Wow, what a mom you have! You are very loved indeed. Not ONLY by God but here on earth as well. Prayers to you for speedy healing!
Posted by: Traci | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 09:11 PM
I was thinking about you over the weekend and wondering how everything went for you...and then this morning I saw your blog email: I thought oh thank God you're OK!!!!And, I see that I'm not the only one...you are so loved! You're mom is amazing!!! She always knows the right thing to say. While you are healing (and it will heal)...bangs are a great idea (as a few others have said already). Also, I thought you might like a little music today, since you all are picking grapes: Enjoy!! Huge hugs!!! :)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y5XHRo5y5FE&feature=related
Posted by: Lisa A., CA | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 09:21 PM
Dear Kristin,
Wishing you all good things for a very quick mending. While I have not been a very vocal follower, I have been a loyal one, nonetheless. You are very brave and beautiful in all you do and your courage and love of life will see you past this as well! (How lucky you are to have such a remarkable mom, husband and children)!
Posted by: Jeanne | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 09:28 PM
Kristin,
Uma boa recuperação pra você. Means a good recovery in Portuguese. I love to read your stories and just bought your book and another book recommended by you.
thank you.
Posted by: Lucia Shaeffer | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 10:02 PM
What a great and perceptive mom! Thank her for me for having you! (I just wrote you a longer email...like moms do) From California with love.
Posted by: Bara Lees | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 10:02 PM
Patience attains all that it strives for. So patience, good health and humor, and positive thoughts as you heal.
Posted by: alicia brown | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 10:06 PM
May God heal you quickly and hopefully for me, too, just had a large pre-cancerous growth removed from head, stitches feel like I'm being pulled up to the ceiling but everyone should be aware of danger from the sun, wear sun-lock daily - the sun is always out! - and get a full body exam at least once a year if not twice. Wear a sun-block hat always, may not be fun but it is protection.
Posted by: Phil Anderson | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 10:13 PM
Dear Kristin:
You are and always will be a beautiful woman.
No surgery can ever change that. You are so fortunate to have such a beautiful mother as well.
I wish you a full and beautiful recovery.
Love, janine Cortell
Posted by: Janine Cortell | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 10:29 PM
I so admire your bravery & positive thinking Kristin. I am sure that time will heal the scars greatly .
By the way I love the hat. Just think what great hats you can try on to wear until the scars have diminished. Thank goodness you acted promptly. A message to us all . Don't ignore any thing unusual.
May your recovery be swift & successful.
Posted by: Audrey Wilson | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 11:22 PM
Kristin, no amount of scarring could detract from the beautiful person you are in mind and body. Your mother's birthday is September 23? Oh, no! I always thought I saw myself in her and didn't like what I saw! The email she wrote you about the "H's" is exactly what I would have written to my Catholic-school educated but now not church-going daughters! You have been "kissed" by the Holy Spirit! Blessings!
Posted by: Maxine | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 11:51 PM
Kristin. . . . I have had many lesions removed over the years. Luckily they have always been basal cell or squamous cell and not the more serious kind. I don't know what your situation was but that is a beautiful repair to a beautiful face.
I talked with your equally beautiful sis and Doug recently and they are forever in the know as to what you are doing. I appreciate hearing from you on a regular basis.
Good healing!
Posted by: Phillip Mullard, Scottsdale | Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 11:52 PM
As the wife of a blue-eyed man who has had numerous skin lesions removed & who has also had ocular plastic surgery that made him look worse than Frankenstein (they literally had to put screws and sixteen metal staples in his forehead to lift the forehead scalp back into place post-surgery!), I can assure you that you will be amazed that the scarring will go away sooner than you imagined. Frankenstein disappeared pretty fast and my handsome hubby was in his place. Best wishes to you from southern California!
Posted by: Barbara Penn | Thursday, September 29, 2011 at 12:11 AM
Nothing, absolutely nothing could go terribly wrong with a surrounding of such warmth, prayers and good will. I"m phoning tomorrow morning, harvest or NO harvest. I need to hear your voice, xxx me
Posted by: rk | Thursday, September 29, 2011 at 12:38 AM
Hi Kristen,
I wish you a quick recovery, and am glad to hear you successfully had the troublesome spot removed. What a wonderful mom you have! Take comfort in her sweet words. After reading the comments here it's wonderful to see that you have so many people praying for your quick and painless recovery, myself included. Also, these things heal relatively quickly (I had the same type of removal - and it was a raised scar, like the stitching on a baseball bat - I am left with a faint white line). Your positive attitude and grace has been inspiring to watch.
All the best to you,
Janae
Posted by: Janae | Thursday, September 29, 2011 at 01:52 AM
Bless you, Kristen! Thank you for all your wonderful blogs which I enjoy greatly! I send many healing thoughts, and wish you and your wonderful family only the very best always!
Merci mille fois!
Laraine Lippe
Posted by: Laraine Lippe | Thursday, September 29, 2011 at 02:20 AM
sending you pink light and healing and lets get some reiki going here world!!! By next year it will be as it ws never there - and from now on SPF 35 or better!!!!
Posted by: Karen | Thursday, September 29, 2011 at 02:20 AM
I agree with the "H" is for "heroic." I'm glad the surgery is behind you, and wish you a speedy healing. With all the positive energy from your adoring readers, you should be perfect in no time!
Posted by: Judy Feldman | Thursday, September 29, 2011 at 02:51 AM
What a beautiful love note from your mom - and all of the above notes seem to be love notes too. Please add mine to the bunch - and consider them all posies for a beautiful woman! Wishing you a speedy recovery from your operation and thanks for all you give!
Posted by: Kay Bean | Thursday, September 29, 2011 at 03:10 AM
Kristen,
I know your scar will soon heal and your mother is one in a million. She has entranced me for years an, today, made me smile even more. You are both such very special people, as evidenced by all the comments here.
Posted by: Susan Carter | Thursday, September 29, 2011 at 03:19 AM
Dear Kristen,
We have communicated before, but what you don't know is that I am a Hospital Pharmacist with MANY years in hospitals, AND I have had your surgery, basal cell carcinoma...although you win the prize for size of !
A couple of things to know. First, I applaud votre courage...not many women (or men) would be willing to show the healing tissue on their face! Secondly, please know that it will all heal nicely. They took a ROUND section out of my forehead that was larger than a quarter, about the same place as yours and it healed completely and I am as pretty as I ever was (not that I was ever pretty!), but the point is that you cannot tell.
It is IMPORTANT that you have a GOOD plastic surgeon work with your tissue to ensure you do not have a permanent scar...that would be totally unnecessary.
Finally, know that you are like my wife, you are incapable of being anything but beautiful.
Jimm Hughey, CA Pharmacist
Posted by: Jimm Hughey | Thursday, September 29, 2011 at 05:02 AM
Ah the beauty in your family, both inside & out. Love & healing to you & Jules. You know you are in my thoughts & prayers already. <3
Hugs
Posted by: Betty Gleason | Thursday, September 29, 2011 at 06:17 AM
Kristen,
Best wishes for speedy healing! Are you following up with a plastic surgeon, is that part of the plan?
You look lovely, with or without the scar- and as scars go, it looks like it will heal just fine.
Your mother's note is very sweet- it makes me miss my own mom.
Best,
Jane Elspeth
Posted by: Jane Elspeth | Thursday, September 29, 2011 at 07:08 AM
Kristin,
I wish you a speedy and complete recovery. At times like these, the warmth and support of family and great friends (and also, in your case, wishes from all the 'French Word-A-Day readers') will definitely help you in the healing process :).
Anita
Posted by: Anita | Thursday, September 29, 2011 at 10:04 AM
Sending mindful blessings of healing and health to you, dear Kristin. You send so much joy and weekly smiles to so many of us around the globe. With thanks and love, Lisa xx
Posted by: Leisa | Thursday, September 29, 2011 at 10:12 AM
Dearest Kristin
You are so loved and blessed. Just look at all the love in these notes to you. As so many of your followers wrote, these scars will fade with time. As I said to you before, the horizontal scars in your forehead simply look like natural creases. And yes for now, practice absolutely "safe sun" NO sun exposure to the fresh scars. Nothing can detract from your beauty.
Love Virginia
Posted by: Virginia | Thursday, September 29, 2011 at 02:28 PM
Scars are only on the surface and they fade over time, leaving small traces of battles fought and won. You are still the loveliest winemaker's wife in the land.
Your mother's words signify such an extraordinary wisdom, one gained, no doubt, through a lifetime of finding what so many of us are searching for - life's meaning and all its promises. I am saving her words for the someday in the future when I can share them with another or find my own healing in them. I am so wishing to meet your mother one day - we are from the same "time zone" in history, I think. And I know Charles and Martha will manage to introduce us (you and me) one day, although your writing opens your life to readers in such personal ways it's as if I already know you.
Finally, Thank You, dear Kristin, for the courage of sharing your innermost thoughts about your surgery. You are helping others who are afraid to face their own health issues. (And you are probably making it a little easier for Jean-Marc to cope with his own worry for you.)
Peace, Nan
Posted by: Nan Morrissette | Thursday, September 29, 2011 at 02:29 PM
WOW Kristin I do not think you can ever read all of these, but let me add: I will (continue to) keep you in my prayers. you will be fine. Your mom is spot-on with her thoughts. And Through your pain and scars, you become a testimony to others. What a privilege. I too had skin AND breast cancer; thank God, I am well and healed. Your posts are a blessing, and your life is one, too. Love to all of you in beautiful France.Jackie
Posted by: Jacqueline Gill | Thursday, September 29, 2011 at 02:30 PM
Wow, such a big incision! Glad it was nothing, well almost nothing!
Posted by: pat | Thursday, September 29, 2011 at 03:08 PM
Had been thinking of you, especially when there was a glitch in your routine thrice-weekly FWD. Being a veteran of cancer surgery, I had to see your scarred beautiful face. My wet eyes will soon dry and after a while your lovely face will look almost as before -- always charming and radiant.
Comme toujours, Fred
Posted by: Fred Caswell | Thursday, September 29, 2011 at 03:13 PM
Kristin,
I am keeping you in my prayers for a speedy recovery too! Your mom is wonderful!
Love to you,
Eileen
Posted by: Eileen deCamp | Thursday, September 29, 2011 at 04:08 PM
Goodness, Kristin!
How brave and dear that you share your experience to remind us Sunblock Forever! Blessings on you and your equally lovely Mother. You deserve Halos...
Warmly,Gail
Posted by: Gail Schilling | Thursday, September 29, 2011 at 04:25 PM
Kristin, You have been in my thoughts for these past two weeks every day for two reasons. One, your impending surgery during such a busy time at the vineyard and because of the week with Margaret and Portia in Burgundy and now the week with RoseAnn in Venice. I have been sending good wishes to you for a complete and quick recovery and also channeling you when I espy a wonderful doorway, or window or shutter or dog, cat, person to photograph. You are in my thoughts and I send you all positive vibes.
And thank you for sending out the message about skin cancer. Sunblock, hats, parasols!
Posted by: Suzanne, Monroe Twp., NJ | Thursday, September 29, 2011 at 05:32 PM
Praying for quick healing for you! So glad the offending growth is gone.
Your mom really sums it all up and says it all. How very, very blessed you are to have such sweet support. Please take care of yourself.
Posted by: Gaelle | Thursday, September 29, 2011 at 07:30 PM
Oh, your Jules! She is amazing, and how BLESSED you are to have such a woman in your life!! Praying for a speedy recovery, Kristin, for God's Healing Hand to be upon you, and for your mind to have a restful peace as well. love Jen
Posted by: Jennifer in OR | Thursday, September 29, 2011 at 07:48 PM
Kristin:
From the wife of a man who has had numerous surgeries for basal cell, rub Vitamin E oil on it every day. His scars faded quicker!
Denise
Posted by: Denise | Friday, September 30, 2011 at 01:43 AM